It becomes a case of remembering the aspects of life that are personal to you and not dictated by your pain, your disability, your health or your illness. Sometimes, I do find this aspect really difficult. What makes you, you? Try to forget the more obvious aspects that your illness controls. What do you enjoy? What makes you laugh? What is your style? What is your guilty pleasure? What is your movie genre of choice? Who's you favourite artist? What's you biggest dream? Who is your role model? What would you do for fun? There is always something you feel passionate about. There is always a quirk within your personality that others and yourself will eventually be able to see.
On reflection, sometimes I wake up and instantly feel disabled. It's how I then personally define this whole day, which usually turns out rubbish because I let my disability win. In reality, I should accept this day for what it is and cope with the present. One of my strong points is that mentally, I don't often feel disabled. I feel like this is both a positive and a negative attribute of my thoughts. The negative being that I am not fully accepting my situation, lifestyle and physical weakness. The positive being that, as long as I continue to think this way, I won't be allow myself to wallow in self pity. I will still be able to push myself and feel like my goals are still half attainable.
I am still the daughter that wants to make my parents proud, I am still the friend who will always be there when I am needed, I am still Nancy, I just have to cope with a disability and I will hopefully be able to do just that. I will find things I enjoy again, I will find my way in living life again and I will be try to be kind to myself and this process of acceptance. We can make terrible circumstances beautiful in their own way. It's not always welcomed or suitable, but you can only work with what you are given. Some of us were given a disability, we just can't allow it to continue to define us. You are the only person who can discover the attributes that make you unique, despite your disability.